I’m 35 male, tall, dark hair and blue eyes. University educated, work in the technology industry. I’m pretty driven when it comes to career maybe to my detriment sometimes.
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I’ve always been an active guy, spending the last nine years practicing martial arts and more recently finding a love for CrossFit. What’s that you may ask? Some people refer to it as a bit of a fitness cult but I enjoy it for its simplicity and competitive edge. When i’m not spending time seemingly hitting stuff or grunting loudly in the gym about to pass out Photography has become a large passion of mine, a creative outlet I guess in my otherwise very technical and structured working life.
Generally since my mid twenties up until last year (2013) I’ve been in three long term relationships. With little gap between them I cruised through ten years of my life in relationships where I felt very comfortable but didn’t really see any long term future with in the sense of settling down or having kids. Why? I’m not sure, I guess I didn’t see any urgency or particular reason not to be with those previous partners but when it came to the crunch I did have to admit to them and myself that things were not going to develop any further and move on.
In hindsight was this the right way to approach relationships? I don’t I hold any regrets but its certainly made me realise now that time can pass by very swiftly in the blink of an eye. My last long term relationship came to an end naturally around Dec 2013 when we started to discuss after 5 or so years where things were going, we hadn’t even moved in with each other by this stage and the pressure was on me to make a decision. Allow her to move in or to end things knowing that deep down it wasn’t right for either of us. The decision finally was the later.
Looking around me all of my friends are mostly married with kids or about to get married, even our one friend who we have a running joke with about being gay (works in the theatre, never talks about girlfriends, you know the type) has seemingly found the love of his life.
Past partners I had successfully found via various online dating sites so naturally this seems a good place to start again due to my seemingly busy work life and the fact that the technology industry seems to be full of women who either look like men or are already married.
Why swipe right?
Dating sites have taken a new turn, long profiles and multiple questions seem to be a thing of the past and people seem to enjoy the flippancy of simply swiping right to accept or left to reject a person based on a few chosen photos. I’m not going to mentions particular names apps or sites here, but my chosen arsenal of dating tools are the well known phone app rhyming with Linda and the online dating site who’s name rhymes with Ohh Gay Stupid.
So onto my diary, my name isn’t James and the ladies names I have chosen to not divulge in order to keep things as honest and factual as possible whilst retaining my and their anonymity.
So lets begin…….